The true story of Geeta, as shared with me. *Name has been changed:\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Psychological abuse was something that Geeta never heard about.\u00a0 This word does not pop up in the dictionary of most Indians.\u00a0 Being the youngest in a happy secure home with loving parents and siblings, she studied hard, and at 16, she went for further studies to another state, independent and a topper in all that she did because she worked hard.\u00a0 She was a successful and beautiful young lady, empowered to bring out treasures within her.<\/p>\n Later on, she got a job in a big multinational company and stepped into a great position in a managerial role.\u00a0 During her tenure there, she met a man who was interested in her, colleagues in different subsidiaries. He later proposed a relationship and courted her Geeta strode into her new role as wife and suddenly found a strange stiffness in their relationship. She suddenly found he would flare up suddenly, and get angry with her, and while is not uncommon for some spouses to be more prone to anger, she discovered a frightening obsessiveness about him. If they were out at a public gathering and she happened to glance in the direction of another man, he would rant and rage blaming her for being interested in that man.<\/p>\n One day, as they were driving through the traffic and stopped at the red lights, another car stopped near them, the man at the wheel peered into their car and Geeta happened to glance at him.\u00a0 As their eyes met for a split second, her husband drove the car a little ahead and ordered her to get out of the car.\u00a0 He accused her of being interested in the stranger! He then drove away leaving her alone. Geeta managed to find her way home, terrified at the strange behavior of her husband.<\/p>\n She realized he was eroded with fears and insecurities.\u00a0 If another man so much as looked at her or complimented her on her beauty, he would fly into fits of jealous rage and taunt her.\u00a0 This magnified over the years becoming an ugly monster destroying their marriage. However, her spouse persistently coaxed her elder brother to play mediator and they were reunited after he swore to her brother that he would change.\u00a0 She returned to him in good faith, a mistake she regretted forever.<\/p>\n Three months later, Geeta conceived and then gave birth to a son.\u00a0 Soon after the birth of the baby, Geeta was shocked to discover that instead of rejoicing over the baby, her husband got jealous of him!\u00a0 Geeta started to resent him.\u00a0 Was this a normal man who could even get jealous of his own child?<\/p>\n The situation turned disastrous because there was a constant tussle for him trying to gain her love over the child, his harrowing reached unbearable levels.<\/p>\n Later on, Geeta started her job again.\u00a0 Sometimes, it required her to travel abroad.\u00a0 Since Geeta and her husband had met as colleagues at work, he could not stop her from working but heavily resented her traveling abroad.\u00a0 While her foreign trips gave her mental release, it unleashed greater insecurities and rage in her husband.<\/p>\n However, Geeta was miserable at those times being apart from her young son who also dreaded seeing her pack a suitcase to travel for yet another foreign conference. Her son started to get affected by the abuse and started to get nightmares.<\/p>\n Geeta’s spouse threatened to take his life if she ever left him.\u00a0 He made attempts to deliberately crash their car while driving even with their young son in the car when he was fighting with her.\u00a0 He even attempted to stab her though never actually stabbed her.<\/p>\n Geeta’s father lived to see the marriage unravel into abusive psychological warfare before his horrified eyes when he lived with them later on and this tore his heart.<\/p>\n In the meantime, her friends and family started sensing something was wrong and were worried for her safety all the time.<\/p>\n One day, a unique turn of events transpired suddenly out of the blue.\u00a0 Geeta was invited to an event launch in a professional institution.\u00a0 Mysteriously, fate brought a new turn in her life and this led to a series of many developments.\u00a0 As she sat transfixed through the conference wide-eyed and shocked, her life started to unwind as she took in the truth that she was a victim of the warfare of psychological domestic violence.<\/p>\n She was aghast that she, highly educated, qualified with a fantastic job was actually a prey of a perpetrator who was very dangerous. Not only was he targeting her mind, and destroying her mental health but also breaking her spirit by constantly deriding her and putting her down with ugly demeaning comments, telling her she was worthless and useless.<\/p>\n With this stunning revelation that shook her senses, she later bravely sought professional counseling and guidance.\u00a0 After some time, she traveled to visit her sister overseas and her eldest sister decided that they needed to take concrete steps to get her free.<\/p>\n It was not an easy task as her husband was not willing to let her go.\u00a0 Geeta realized at this point that according to Indian society, people look down on divorced women and would probably blame her if she separated from her husband but she did not care what the society thought anymore because she was seeking her own peace and protection for her child and herself.<\/p>\n In her tough, emotional journey ahead going through the divorce, the legal proceedings were concluded quickly by an unbiased good judge. Her ex then stalked Geeta and her son repeatedly abused harbingering that she would remarry and that upset him.<\/p>\n He eventually realized that she would never remarry as Geeta said that after ten years of intense abuse by a man, who could think of remarrying? With this discovery, he finally left her alone.<\/p>\n Geeta got healing through her supportive understanding young son, her strong spiritualism, and help from her immediate family.\u00a0 She then took on a more challenging career role in senior management that took her on frequent global travel, sitting in many foreign boardrooms presenting and influencing strategic decision-making for organizations.<\/p>\n Geeta tells us that we often think domestic violence is worse than emotional abuse, but During her free time after she formally trained with a professional institution, sharing She also says when asked that marriages and relationships can be given a chance of Geeta vigorously emphasized that anyone experiencing domestic violence whether She advises that they should seek pro bono or paid professional help to counsel them, We live in a society where Indians only sit up seriously when a woman is being thrashed.\u00a0 If there is no physical violence, people rarely take note of a woman’s case.\u00a0 \u00a0However, verbal abuse is psychological warfare inflicted on its victims with such intensity that they can be pushed eventually to take their lives.\u00a0 The victim is constantly targeted, and reduced to a bundle of nerves, leading to depression, fear, and terror.\u00a0 Geeta took the right step by walking out taking her child along with her or they would have been destroyed in that toxic atmosphere.<\/p>\n There are many like Geeta who battle domestic<\/a> psychological violence in varying degrees and facets. People from all walks of life and even professionals of the male gender too are ashamed to speak up or seek professional help on the escalating abuse within the walls of their homes; however, one must seek help early, and never ignore abusive psychological warfare which is as lethal as physical abuse.\u00a0 Like Geeta, many women can be set free from a prison of fear to a flight of freedom.<\/p>\n You might also want to read https:\/\/www.hamslive.com\/news\/2020\/12\/09\/why-do-some-couples-fall-out-of-love-after-a-few-years\/<\/a><\/p>\nGeeta’s Story<\/h3>\n
\nfor three years.\u00a0 Being much older, with an age gap between them of over ten years, she was 29 and he was 40 when they got married.<\/p>\n
\nGeeta lived in a prison of fear.\u00a0 One day, she took a big decision and fled back home to her father’s after three years of their marriage realizing it was a horrible mistake.<\/p>\n\u00a0A Unique Turn of Events<\/h3>\n
Geeta’s Message to Women Suffering From Domestic Psychological Abuse<\/h3>\n
\nemotional abuse is equally harmful leaving scars on the soul which cannot be erased forever.<\/p>\n
\nawareness in training sessions and also counseled victims of domestic violence.<\/p>\n
\nresolution with professional assistance but not at the cost of a life. The fear of parental
\nabandonment, societal stigma, lack of monetary support and their professional reputations do prevail. So all these concerns should also be addressed.<\/p>\n
\nmale or female, professional or otherwise, whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional, to
\nassess their situation realistically and do what is right for themselves and their loved ones.<\/p>\n
\nincluding their spouse not forgetting the children who carry the invisible scars too. A
\nmarriage is a joint partnership with both appreciating each other and growing old together.
\nChildren are the gifts of this partnership and deserve happiness.\u00a0 Please do not remain a silent<\/p>\nPsychological Abuse is as Lethal as Physical Abuse<\/h3>\n